Loneliness

Many people do not like to spend a lot of time by themselves, because they are afraid of being alone. When we are by ourselves with no physical contact from another person for an extended period of time, loneliness can begin to surface. 

  Loneliness can cause us to develop insecurities within both our heart and mind, which can also result in us placing the value of other people above our own self value. Unfortunately this can happen if we do not have the true concept of who we are, or our true worth. And without realising it, our lack of self and inadequacy are exactly the energy and the message we are subconsciously sending out to everyone else about ourselves.

Feelings of loneliness means our mind has not yet reached the level of maturity necessary, to allow us to know and understand that we are in fact a complete and whole individual. We are not yet able to comprehend that we are innately designed to function perfectly well, without the constant need for company or validation from another person.  

  Society relentlessly sends out the message that we must master the art of social interaction, if we are to achieve the ultimate goal of acceptance from other people. We are misled to believe that this is a vital requirement, if we are to avoid  rejection and isolation, which are prime ingredients in our feelings of loneliness.

  We are regularly advised that we must do our utmost to adopt certain behaviours and character traits, to avoid being overlooked by other people. With the fear of not being seen by others as someone who is worth spending precious time with, we endeavour to participate in whatever we believe is necessary for us to be accepted.

   Many of us work extremely hard and go to great lengths, to only show the aspects of ourselves which we believe will be acceptable to others. We spend a vast amount of our precious time, energy and even money, living a lie. We buy into the false narrative that if we try hard enough, we can somehow fake it until we make it. 

   While we may initially believe that this method of hiding our true and authentic self behind a metaphorical mask is working, in the long term this false perception is wholly inadequate to fulfil our need to connect with other people honestly. We are offering a false persona which means that we are not living in our true identity. We are just existing predominantly from the wants and needs of our ego, while  simply prolonging our innate wants and needs for acceptance of self. 

   Constantly worrying about the possibility of living a lonely life is one of the biggest contributors to our mental health conditions. We are fooled into believing that if we do not fit into a certain criteria then this is not normal, and there must be something wrong with us. We fail to acknowledge the reverse reality that abnormality means trying to be exactly like everyone else, when we are innately designed to be a unique individual who is different from everyone else.

    We are all born into this world on our own. We made the initial journey from incubation into evolution on our own. We were born as one unique individual. We are born with one heart, one mind, one body, one spirit and one soul. Out of millions of other sperm in our race for our existence, we were the successful ones. We were Divinely chosen to make the final dash for our freedom into this world on our own.  

   From the outset we were aware that our journey towards our brand new beginning needed to be made by ourselves, and we were undeterred. We innately knew exactly what we needed to do to achieve our ultimate goal of survival and birth, and we were fully prepared to see our mission through from start to finish by ourselves. We managed to achieve our Divine mission with no physical sight, just our intuition and the pure love of our mother’s soul for guidance, through the darkness and into the light.

    There is truth in the saying ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ because if we choose to compare ourselves with another person, we are allowing our ego to convince us that there are many aspects of ourselves both internally and externally that are below a perceived standard. But who’s standard is it? Who makes the rules about how we must look, act, think, feel or behave? Regardless of all of the evidence that we are designed to be completely content as a single human being on this vast planet, sadly many people still feel that they are incomplete when no one else is around. 

   We must work hard to aim towards a healthy mental and emotional balance within ourselves. This will enable us to fully embrace and enjoy the quality time we spend around other people and above all else, cherish our own individual time spent on our own. With this renewed mindset we can fully understand how being on our own gives us the opportunity to ‘own’ ourselves, because the word ‘own’ means to be ‘independent’ and belonging to ‘oneself’.

   loneliness can be so self depleting that it can have a depressed individual confusing acquaintances for friends, and even mistaking enemies for friends. Our fear of loneliness will even have us trying to hold on to people who we really do not need in our life. Having toxic and spirit destroying people around us when we are unfulfilled with our life, is akin to the blind leading the blind. Sadly, we often keep these people in our life when we do not even like who they are. We willfully put up with our own discomfort of putting up with what we know full well that we should not be putting up with in the first place. And we do this time and again, all because of our deep rooted fears of loneliness. 

  Refusing to let go of anyone who does absolutely nothing for our self esteem, or who rarely has anything positive and uplifting to bring into our life, is taking up vital space which needs to be reserved for someone else of more quality. We must learn to let go of all growth blocking people if we are to begin to attract the right people into our lives. Keeping negative and toxic individuals in our life is not only draining our mental, physical and spiritual energy, but their mere presence can prove to be extremely detrimental to our overall well-being.

   We must endeavour to understanding that every single human being on this earth is connected and equal to each other. We may look different, act different, and even hold different beliefs. But these are all part of our own individual personality, which is innately necessary for us to enable interest, learning and growth to develop amongst us all. Our external visual makeup may vary from person to person, but what is not seen visually is something we all share internally.   

   When we discover the full power of our soul absolutely everything about ourselves and our life will change. When we seek to understand how our soul resonates and connects with the soul of others, we can finally begin to lift the veil of misconception and illusion of loneliness.

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