Soul Control
When we are unhappy we often blame sources outside of ourselves such as other people or external circumstances. We complain how someone else’s actions have resulted in us feeling and even behaving in a negative and unhealthy manner, and we put our dissatisfaction in our life down to situations which we feel we have no control over. What we are actually doing at this point is giving the person or the situation all of our innate power. We are offering this person or situation total control of us and who we are. We are basically saying to ourselves and everyone else that we have absolutely no control of ourselves and our life, and someone else is pulling the strings, calling the shots and and ultimately in complete control of our mind body and indeed our soul.
Allowing someone or something else to have such a great influence over us is affirming our belief that we are helpless, powerless and at the mercy of whatever this external source chooses to put us through. In turn, this false and damaging belief leaves us with a high level of vulnerability that is laced with fear. However we are left feeling after any unfavourable, negative or even traumatic encounter with others or any such destructive circumstance, is that we do indeed have outright and complete control of our response to every situation before us.
Our response to absolutely every event in our life both positive and negative is totally in our hands. We can choose to become a victim and fall apart, or we can choose to stay focused and grounded and remain whole in our true form. We can decide to receive the unsettling issue as a personal attack by the perpetrator, or we can view it independently as a telling sign of the other persons lack of or indeed struggles with their own ‘Soul Control’.
The most favourable and indeed impactful response we can deliver when we encounter unsavoury people, or if we are subjected to any verbal attack - whether abrupt or passive aggressive - is to refrain from any response whatsoever, and simply remain silent. By refusing to voice a response and also follow up our silence by physically removing ourselves from the situation, we are making a very clear statement to both the other person and even more importantly to ourselves… ’I AM IN COMPLETE CONTROL OF ME’
Choosing this stance of silence and removal allows several key factors to take place. a) Our silence will come as a complete surprise to the other person, as they would probably be expecting a stern reaction from us, which can leave them feeling confused, annoyed and even embarrassed by their own behaviour.
b) Our silence will allow us time and space to think, and indeed calm down and prevent us from reacting in a panicked, out of character and negative way.
c) Our silence will serve to be proof and a true sign of our inner self confidence, which will continue to grow each time we remain centred and focused in our ability to control our own thoughts, emotions and behaviour.
Every second, minute and hour of our 24 hour day, we have complete control of our mind, body and soul. Even if we are working eight to ten hours a day and our day is structured by another individual such as a line manager or other work colleagues, the mindset, thought process and behaviour we choose to apply throughout this time spent is always up to us.
Having ‘Soul Control’ means taking full non excused responsibility for ourselves from the inside out. This means that we wholeheartedly recognise that this is the correct and authentic way to live, as the reverse effect of existing from the outside in - based on what experiences we are subjected to externally, and allowing to effect us internally, and reacting in like kind negativity - will only result in a great lack of happiness, peace and growth.
When we inevitably encounter difficult times in our lives the way in which we cope with the problem will show whether or not we have an effective Soul Control system in place. Whatever we fail to control in our lives will result in loss, and if we do not have a method of effective self control we will never obtain what we need. A loss can become internalised as a lack of self worth, self belief and self trust, which can also translate into other areas of our life including our relationships with others. Our lack of ability to take full control of our behaviour can develop insecurities which can even show up in our lack of trustful friends, a lack of financial resources and even a lack of physical or mental well-being.
When we are in complete control of every aspect of ourselves we attract more of the things we need and indeed what we believe we deserve. This begins by learning how to control the little things in our life first and foremost, because if the smaller issues are left uncontrolled they can spiral out of control and become bigger issues.
Taking charge of our life means staying strong in our conviction to say ‘Yes’ to what we believe is right for us and ‘No’ to what we know is not. Our entire being needs us to deploy all our knowledge, commitment and skill to create our own narrative, as this journey is designed to be lived in one way only… in Soul Control.
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